A method for controlling a remote wireless device with a user device includes the user device sending a request message packet to the remote wireless device, where the remote wireless device verifies the request message packet and sends a reply message packet to the user device if the request message packet passes verification. The user device verifies the reply message packet and sends a control message packet to the remote wireless device if the reply message packet passes verification. The remote wireless device verifies the control message packet and sends an acknowledgment message packet to the user device if the control message packet passes verification.