A selecting system selects, among controllers controlling a session between communication terminals, a controller to be connected to a communication terminal. The selecting system includes a state management unit, a load management unit, an accepting unit, a calculating unit, and a selecting unit. The state management unit manages, for each controller, state information indicating a state of communication of a communication terminal connected to the controller. The load management unit manages, for each state of communication, load information indicating a degree of load. The accepting unit accepts a connection request to the controller from a communication terminal not connected to the controller. The calculating unit calculates, for each controller, the degree of load related to the control based on the state information and the load information. The selecting unit selects a controller to be connected to the communication terminal as a connection requester terminal based on the degree of load.